How I Work
My work brings together professional methods with a clear therapeutic stance. How exactly I work develops in our shared process, individually tailored to your concerns and situation.
Sexocorporel
Body and Experience Working Together
Sexocorporel is a body-oriented model of sex therapy developed in the 1970s by Prof. Jean-Yves Desjardins at the Université du Québec à Montréal in Canada. The name literally means "sexual-bodily" and captures the core idea: body and experience are inseparably connected in sexuality. How we experience sexuality is shaped by how we breathe, move, think and feel.
The model's guiding principle is: sexuality is learned — and what has been learned can also be changed. Sexual patterns and habits aren't set in stone. They can be developed further throughout life.
Sexocorporel is a resource-oriented, life-affirming model. It's not about fixing something but about getting to know your own sexuality better and letting it unfold. The work happens through conversation and possibly targeted body exercises that you can deepen in the privacy of your home.
Sexocorporel is the foundation of my Master's degree in Sexology (ISP Zurich / Merseburg University) and forms the core of my sex therapy practice. Sessions take place fully clothed.
Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT)
Understanding Attachment. Strengthening Connection.
Behind many couple conflicts lies a deeper question: Are you there for me? Can I count on you? Emotionally Focused Therapy, developed by Sue Johnson, is based on attachment theory. It starts from the idea that conflict and withdrawal are often expressions of wounded attachment, not of malice or indifference.
Often it's not the actual content of an argument that hurts, but the feeling of not being heard, not being seen, or not being loved. That's why conflicts can sometimes revolve around seemingly small things and still stir up so much. EFT looks at what lies underneath: emotional injuries, attachment needs and the longing for safety.
In our shared process, these patterns become visible and gradually changeable. This creates space to meet each other anew and build a relationship where both people feel safe, accepted and connected.
EFT is well-supported by research and one of the most effective approaches in couples therapy. I have completed the EFT Externship (ICEEFT-certified).
Systemic Perspective
Relationship Dynamics in Their Broader Context
Systemic thinking looks at family of origin, formative experiences, societal expectations, gender roles and the interplay in which people live.
In practice, this means I don't just look at a single problem or conflict but also at the patterns and connections behind it. What function does a behaviour serve? What keeps a dynamic in place? What good reasons might there be for staying with the status quo? Questions like these often open up new perspectives and possibilities.
The systemic perspective isn't a separate therapy offering for me but part of how I think. It flows into all of my work, in individual sessions just as much as in couples therapy. This lens is foundational to how I practise.
Systemic thinking was a recurring topic throughout my Master's degree in Sexology. I also completed the online continuing education programmes 'Systemic Sex and Couples Therapy' and 'From Problem to Solution' with Prof. Dr. Ulrich Clement.
BDSM & Kink
Professionally Informed and Respectfully Supported
BDSM, kink, fetishes and non-normative sexuality are an area I've specifically trained in. These forms of sexuality are, to me, a natural part of human diversity.
I work without pathologising or rushing to judgment. At the same time, I bring professional knowledge about dynamics, communication and potential risks that can come up in these contexts. I also use methods developed specifically for therapeutic work in this area.
In therapy, we begin directly with what matters to you. Whether it's about shame around your own desires, conversations with a partner, or questions about boundaries, roles and consent.
My training in this area includes an introduction and advanced course in BDSM as well as a multi-part series on specific topics such as fetish, power dynamics and relationship structures in alternative settings.
Queer-Affirmative Practice
For you, as you are
If you're trans*, non-binary or queer, you'll find a space here where your identity isn't questioned. It doesn't have to be a topic, unless you want it to be.
In our therapeutic work, we might explore all sorts of themes: questions around identity, relationships and sexuality, uncertainties or stresses in daily life, or concerns that have nothing to do with gender or queerness at all.
I'm attuned to experiences of normative pressure, discrimination and minority stress. The focus always stays on what feels relevant to you right now.
I have completed the training "Open, polyamorous and queer relationships" (Dr. Ursina Donatsch, IÖST Zurich) and attended the conference "Neurodivergence and gender identity in childhood and adolescence" (visoparents, 2026). I'm attending the course "Affirmative support for trans and non-binary people for professionals" (Geschlechter-Radar) in late June 2026.
Trauma-Sensitive Work
Gently, at your own pace
Difficult experiences leave traces in the body, in relationships and in sexuality. My work isn't about uncovering or pushing through anything. It's about finding a way of dealing with things that feels right and safe for you. You decide what becomes a topic, how far we go and where the boundaries are.
Not everything needs to be named or processed for something to change. We can also start with what's present right now, in your experience, in your body, in how you connect with others. I make sure the process stays understandable and doesn't become overwhelming. Pauses, pacing and grounding are part of how we work together.
My training "Traces of violence: sexual trauma consequences" provides a professional foundation for this area. Beyond professional knowledge, I also bring personal experience with the therapeutic process.
Please note: I am not a clinical trauma therapist. For severe trauma-related conditions, I recommend specialised trauma therapy approaches such as Somatic Experiencing (SE), Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) or Psychodynamic Imaginative Trauma Therapy (PITT). These can work well alongside sex or couples therapy with me.
Sexuality Counselling for People with Disabilities
Sexuality is a right. For everyone.
Sexuality is part of life, even when bodies or cognition work differently or need support. Yet the space for this is often missing. In therapy, support services and everyday life, the topic frequently goes unaddressed. Experiences of being controlled by others, uncertainty, or lacking the words for your own needs can also play a role.
In my practice, we work along what matters to you, at your pace and without judgment. It's about developing your own understanding of your sexual experience and opening up new, more fitting pathways.
This might be about your own sexual experience, your connection to your body, shame or uncertainty, and how intimacy becomes possible given your individual circumstances, if that's what you want. We include physical, emotional and cognitive aspects in this work.
I have completed the nine-part professional series "Amourös: Sexuality and relationships for people with disabilities" (Procap Bern).
Neurodiversity and Sexuality
When Perception, Stimuli and Closeness Work Differently
Neurodivergence, including ADHD, autism spectrum, giftedness and high sensitivity, shapes how people experience sexuality, closeness and relationships. Sensory sensitivities can influence which kinds of touch feel good and which don't. Sensory overwhelm affects how much closeness is possible in a given moment. And if putting needs into words is hard, you might know the feeling that something stays unspoken.
In individual work, we might explore understanding your own experience better. Why do certain touches sometimes feel like too much? Why is it hard to stay present during sex? How can closeness be shaped in a way that feels right? Sometimes it's also about making sense of past experiences in a new way.
In couple relationships, whether one or both partners are neurodivergent, misunderstandings often arise. Different needs and perceptions can feel like distance or disconnection over time, without anyone being at fault. In our work together, we focus on building mutual understanding and finding an approach that feels right for both of you.
The work is resource-oriented. I start with whatever is on your mind right now. I attended the conference 'Neurodivergence and Gender Identity in Childhood and Adolescence' (visoparents, 2026). I will be attending the 'EFT and ADHD' continuing education course in December 2026.
Questions About My Approach?
In the initial session, I'm happy to explain which methods might suit your situation and what you can expect.